With the marriage preparations of my daughter swelling up and whole house excitedly working for the D-day, I often stop and wonder. Why am I doing all in a go, Why am I sending her off with such expensive things and why am I packing her bags. Is she not just getting shifted to another city with a new person in life and does it all mean that she never comes back or does it imply she will never be ours again . To me it is an absolute NO and will always be a NO. My house doors will always keep waiting for the door bell to ring, her wardrobes will always be filled with her clothes, the playlist will always have her songs playing, the dining tables will have the crockery laid out for her and the washroom will have all her cosmetics and toiletries intact.
I have brought up my daughter like any other son of a family who stays forever with the family so shall my daughter be with me always. Marrying her will be like sending her for higher studies to evolve into a woman of substance and use all her earlier education to make her future brighter and greater. I understand that two is greater than one and that is why she got a smart friend on the way with a promise to help each other bloom into a great team of professionals and beautiful duo .
A flashback into her childhood - we grew as a family of four like a square and sometimes a triangle when the father was away. We were always so strong and happy together in our square and triangle that in all adverse situation we supported one another to get back to shape. Bad times are certain to come but staying together in stormy days is what we chose and learnt to do .
Now that she will be away for her higher studies, I do not expect her to be around all the time but I know for sure invisibly she or her partner will continue to complete the square in our good times and times of trouble. And if they have a hard time, we will be standing right behind them to fall back on us.
The thought of sending her off with everything under the sun will never happen. But yes, I will send her with essentials like some dresses to flaunt at workplace , some jewellery to look beautiful in parties, some instruments and goodies to cook when she is hungry and beautiful linens to sleep in peace when she comes back home tired. Rest of the things when she needs she will come back to me again and again and ask for it again and again.
Still more... She was born out of me, I fed her, I nurtured her, I dressed her up, I educated her, I gave her my values and I loved her no bounds and so by all standards she is mine. and if she is mine why must I let her go .
So ...I will never let her go because this is the place she belongs and this is the soil she bloom into a flower called Akshita.
A call to all parents - bring up your daughters so well that they can leave you for a while and love them so much that they will come back to you anytime.
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